1. Be honest and true to yourself. You will attract people that suit you. Otherwise you’ll get stuck in a cycle of forcing relationships.
2. Speak your opinion and give reasons.
3. Do not try and call praise to yourself when the opportunity arises. E.g., If you are good at art and have won prizes. The topic of art comes up. Simply say you are passionate about art and have made many pieces.
4. Be present and listen. Do not be planning a clever response. Let your thoughts come and go. Form a response after.
5. Do not interrupt or allow yourself to be interrupted. Finish speaking when someone talks over you.
6. Always assume what the person is saying is positive rather than negative and that their intent of what their saying is positive. E.g., did you go to college. Assume that they are implying you are smart rather than dumb.
7. Never gossip, judge, complain, give excuses, lie, or be negative in a conversation. Don’t talk about your problems unless you are directly seeking help
8. Don't give unsolicited advice nor preach your philosophy.
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